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ARTICLE · 05 / 09 · BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

The Only-Me List.

12 MIN READ·PUBLISHED ·FILED UNDER AI · LEADERSHIP

Start with a list, not a system. Write down the things only you can currently do or uniquely see, and the steps of each. Then add just enough machinery to do them more often: a skill (your steps written as a manual), a loop (your recurring question on a clock) and a log (a running record of what was found and decided). After that, resist the obvious next move. Don't use AI to build yet another layer of summaries on top of the ones your organization already has. Those layers existed because no executive could decide on that much detail, and the tools now hand you the detail directly. Ask sharper questions instead: not “does our pricing work?” but “for which customers is our price not working?” Do better before you do more, and bring your team along at that same pace.

01A small municipality, with a ledger

Earlier this year I wrote up how I'd automated the administrative half of my job. Reading it back now, I can see what I actually described: a small municipality, with a ledger.

All of it is still true. I dictated my whole job into a chat window, ums included, and three hours later had eighteen small written instructions working over a handful of markdown files. A compass for the quarter. A commitments list for the month. An append-only log for the day. A register of every decision we'd settled, including what we'd ruled out. And a meta-skill whose only job was to design future skills against a maintained map of the system. I designed it with a frontier model in one morning and ran it on a modest one. I was pleased with it.

“Pleased” undersells it a little. I drew three architecture diagrams.

I've come to think it was the wrong place to start. It was too complicated and too advanced, and the problem wasn't that readers can't handle a markdown file. The piece answered the how before it had asked the what. It explained in some detail how to build the engine and never asked where you wanted to drive.

That's a little embarrassing, because the lesson I lean on most is exactly that one: hold people accountable for the what, and let them own the how. I'd skipped your what and handed you my how.

So this is the rewrite. It keeps the machinery, but only a fraction of it, and the first page is different. The first page is about you.

A cardboard scale model of a town hall standing on a heavy ledger that lies open on a scarred steel workbench, one warm rust light raking across both, edges fading to black.

02What can this do for me?

Almost every conversation about AI and leadership opens with the same question: what can this thing do for me? It's a reasonable question with an unfortunate side effect. It sends you to the tool's list of abilities. That list is very long, so you end up automating whatever is easiest to automate: the inbox, the meeting notes, the status update. That's useful, but those are also the parts of your job that were never really yours.

So turn it around. Before you look at what the machine can do, write down what only you can currently do, or what only you currently see. Then, for each one, write down the steps.

Four questions help:

  • Where does your uniqueness actually sit?
  • What questions do you ask that nobody else in the room asks?
  • What thoughts do you have that you've never seen in anyone else's deck?
  • And only then: how could AI help you do that faster, or more often?

It's harder than it sounds, for a slightly uncomfortable reason. Ask most of us what makes us valuable and we describe outputs: the strategy, the plan, the deal. Look more closely and the uniqueness usually sits one step earlier, in the question. Think of the finance lead who always asks what would have to be true for the forecast to hold. Or the marketer who reads every brief and asks who, specifically, will be annoyed by it. Or the country manager who notices, three weeks before anyone else, that one large account has gone quiet.

None of those are deliverables. They're habits of attention, and habits of attention have steps, even if you've never written them down because you never had to.

So write them down. Pick one item on your list and describe what you actually do, step by step, the way you'd brief a sharp colleague who has to cover for you for a month. It's the same discipline as Agent Inclusive: give a person the same clarity you'd give an agent, and it turns out you're giving it to yourself as well.

If you'd rather be interviewed than stare at a blank page, any capable model will do it:

“Interview me, one question at a time, about the things in my job that currently only I do or only I notice. Push past deliverables to the questions and habits underneath them. When we have five, help me write out the steps of the one I'd most like to do more often, as if I were briefing a smart colleague who has to cover for me for a month.”

EXHIBIT · TRY ITThe Only-Me Sheet

List what only you currently do or notice, pick one, write its steps. You get back three cards and the question to ask every week. It's all prepared here in your browser from your own words: no model call, no account, nothing sent anywhere.

Things only I currently do, or only I notice

One to five short lines.

Which one would you like to do more often?

Fill in at least one line above, then pick one here.

How do you actually do it?

Write it as if briefing a colleague who covers for you for a month. Three to seven short lines.

What does the job need to read?

Only the keys the job needs.

What comes back

Skill card
Name
not filled in yet
Job
not filled in yet
Reads
not filled in yet
Steps
not filled in yet
Writes
not filled in yet
Guardrail
You are a clerk; you do not interpret. Prepare and flag; never decide or send.
Loop card
Schedule
not filled in yet
Memo
not filled in yet
Log line

not filled in yet

The question it should ask you every week

The question

not filled in yet

The old question

not filled in yet

Prepared, then chosen. Edit any of this with a pencil.

Your draft stays in this browser only, so a reload doesn't wipe it.

Two words in that prompt carry most of the weight. The first is currently. Some of what only you do is only yours because nobody was ever shown the steps. That isn't uniqueness. It's a job you never delegated, and the list is a good place to catch it. The second is more often. The point isn't to hand your best thinking to a machine. It's to do that thinking more than once a quarter.

I think about this the way I think about most of this work. AI provides the beat and people provide the swing. The rigid, metronomic part (gathering, sorting, checking, on time, every time) is what the model is good at. The swing is yours: the question nobody else asked, the hunch, the call. Your only-me list is a map of your swing. Everything that follows is about putting a steadier beat underneath it.

A single brass tuning fork standing upright on a dark slate surface, one warm rust light catching its tines while everything else dissolves into black.

03Three parts and a key ring

Now the machinery, and only now. I'll keep it light. This is the third of three pieces: The Open Hood was about why understanding the gears beats speed, and The Agentic Nephew goes properly under the hood of the systems. Here you need three parts and a key ring.

The manual, the clock and the log

A skill is your steps, written down as a manual. The model reads the same instructions every time it does that job, so it doesn't reinvent your way of thinking from scratch on every run. The one rule I'd carry over from the old piece is to write each skill as a clerk, not a thinker. It gathers, sorts, tags and formats. It doesn't decide. The prompt can say so in as many words: you are a clerk; you do not interpret. The interpreting is the swing, and the swing stays with you.

A loop is your recurring question, on a clock. It's the thing you'd ask every Monday if you weren't in back-to-back meetings every Monday. A schedule fires, the model rereads its memo (what you're working on, what to look for) and runs the skill against whatever is new. A good question you ask when you happen to remember is one thing. A good question that reliably gets asked is another.

A log is the running record of what was found and decided. It's one file. Every run appends what it saw, dated and tagged with the item on your list it belongs to. That tag does more work than it looks: a modest model rolls up tagged entries reliably, and where it stumbles is inferring connections across untagged free text. The log is also what makes the loop a loop. Next week's run reads last week's findings, so the question gets sharper each time instead of starting from zero.

The key ring is your workspaces and connectors. They decide where the work happens and what it's allowed to open: the mail, the CRM export, the meeting transcripts, the dashboard. Hand over the keys the job needs and not one more. A folder per job is a perfectly respectable workspace.

If I could keep only one sentence from the old article, it would be this one: the files are the API. The skill, the loop's memo and the log are plain documents you can read from start to finish. The parts never talk to each other directly. They read and write those files. That keeps the whole thing checkable, and it makes it portable. I designed my first version with a frontier model in one morning and ran it on a modest one, because once the thinking is written down, the daily work is clerk-sized. When the system prioritizes the wrong thing, you don't engineer a prompt. You correct a file with a pencil.

The kit, lightly. You hold the only-me list and pull one item out. Your steps become a skill, a manual that works like a clerk. Your question becomes a loop, a clock. A key ring of workspace and connectors feeds the skill. Skill and loop both write into a log, which you read and decide on: that is the swing.THE FILES ARE THE APIYOUthe only-me listyour stepsyour questionSKILLthe manual · clerk, not thinkerKEY RINGworkspace + connectorsmail · CRM · transcriptsLOOPthe clock · e.g. Monday 08:00LOGthe record · dated · taggedappend-onlyyou read it, you decide: that's the swing.

That's the whole kit. There's no compass, no commitments register, and no meta-skill designing other skills. I built all of those, and for most people reading this, they're the municipality. Start without them.

Do better before you do more

This next part interests me more than the plumbing, and it's what happens once the kit works. You get an overflow. Questions that used to take a week and an analyst come back by Tuesday morning. You can see more of the business, in more detail, than you could before, and the obvious temptation is to do more with it: more questions, more initiatives, more dashboards about the dashboards.

My rule for that moment is do better before you do more. Spend the overflow on depth first, on the quality of the decisions you already make and on a strategy that's actually informed by what's going on. Only then spend it on volume. It's the multiplier argument turned on yourself: spend the new capacity on what compounds, not on doing the same things more often.

To see why depth is now on the table, it helps to look at why it wasn't.

As an organization grows, its executives get distillates. Each time a piece of information travels up, it passes through another layer of abstraction. The account becomes a segment, the segment becomes a region, the region becomes a slide, and the slide becomes a traffic light. Those layers exist for one reason, and it isn't vanity: no executive can make decisions on that many detailed elements. Compression was the price of scale.

Now look at what many leaders are doing with AI. They're building new intermediary layers: summaries of the summaries, a digest of the weekly reports, which were already digests of the team updates, which were digests of the work. It's genuinely faster. It's also the old shape, automated.

Add a layer, or ask the detail? On the left, a stack of reporting layers from the work upward: team update, weekly report, regional summary, slide, traffic light, each layer compressing, with a new dashed layer on top: an AI summary of the summary. On the right, the same stack faded, with one clean line running straight from the executive's question down to the work: a spot question, asked of the detail. Don't add a layer. Ask the detail.AI summary of the summarythe new layertraffic lightslideregional summaryweekly reportteam updateTHE WORKeach layer compressestraffic lightslideregional summaryweekly reportteam updateTHE WORKEXECUTIVE QUESTIONa spot question,asked of the detailDon't add a layer. Ask the detail.

So here's my challenge, and I'll own that it's a provocation: why keep those layers at all? They were compensation for a limit, the executive's bandwidth for detail, and that is precisely the limit the tools now lift. If your models and connectors are set up properly, the detail is at your disposal. You can ask a spot question about one customer segment. You can ask what was actually said in this meeting, and in that one, rather than reading the three bullets someone remembered.

I want to be precise about what removing a layer means here, because it's easy to hear something else. I mean removing a reporting layer: the summary, and the distillation it exists for. I don't mean the people who write it. Those people were never valuable because they could compress forty accounts into one traffic light. That compression was the beat, and a machine keeps a steadier beat. They were valuable because they knew which account was about to go quiet, and why. That's the swing. It's also the first thing you lose when the people closest to the work spend their week reformatting what they know into something you can skim.

The pricing question

The clearest example I have is pricing.

The old question is does our pricing strategy work? Look at what it assumes: one strategy, held across thousands of customers, judged on an average. That question is a product of the layers. It's the shape a question takes once the detail has already been compressed out of it.

The new question is for which customers is my price not working, and should I change it for them?

The intent is the same, but the resolution is different. The abstraction collapses and the question gets sharper. A sharper question also leads somewhere. It ends in a decision about specific customers, based on evidence about those customers, instead of a debate about an average that none of them actually pays.

Meetings work the same way. How did the quarterly reviews go? becomes in which reviews did a customer raise the same objection, and what did we say back? You aren't asking more questions. You're asking the same question at a higher resolution.

“Here is a question I ask at the level of the whole business: [your question]. Rewrite it so it can be answered for specific customers, accounts, segments or meetings. Then tell me which data you'd need to answer it, and which of those sources you can actually reach.”

One honest caveat, because this section could easily read like a brochure. Detail isn't free. Without a good question, it's just noise at a higher resolution. A confident spot answer about one segment can also be wrong in ways a summary would have smoothed over, so check the sources before you reprice anyone. Not every layer is pure compression, either: some carry judgment, shared language and accountability, and those are worth keeping. And there's a sharper risk, the one I watch most closely in myself. An executive who can see everything is an executive tempted to manage everything.

Which brings us to the people.

A brass magnifying glass resting on top of a stack of bound reports on a dark workbench, its rim catching a single warm rust light, the room behind lost in black.

04Bringing the organization along

If this works, you end up with a surplus of executive capability. You can see more, and potentially decide better, than the people around you. That's the part I haven't fully solved, and I'd rather say so than pretend: how do you bring your organization along instead of racing ahead on your own?

So far my answer comes down to two things.

Pace it deliberately. Do better before you do more, for your team as much as for yourself. An organization takes on a leader's new capability at the speed it can absorb new questions, not at the speed the leader can now produce them.

Ask better questions, not more questions. One sharp question a week, asked of the right detail, beats twenty that arrive simply because they suddenly became cheap.

Beyond those two, here are three suggestions I'm still testing in my head.

Share the detail downward. If the tools give you direct access to the detail, give your team the same access, with the same connectors and the same log, instead of keeping it at the top. Otherwise you've just rebuilt the layers upside down: you see the detail, and they get your summary of it.

Ask about the what, and leave the how. Being able to see that much detail makes it tempting to start steering individual accounts, individual meetings, even individual sentences. That's the colander all over again. Use the detail to sharpen the result you hold people accountable for (“these forty customers aren't converting at our price”) and let the people closest to those customers own what to do about it.

Put your weekly question where your team can see it. If a loop asks you something every Monday, tell your team what it is. Your private dashboard becomes a shared signal of what matters, and the people who know the answer better than any model get an invitation to bring it to you.

If you want to start this week, start small. Make one list. Write out the steps for one item on it. Create one file called log.md. Put one question on a clock, and make sure it's asked of something specific. Use whatever model you already have. If it earns its place, add a second. You'll probably never need the municipality.

Or skip the blank page: I wrote the design interview down as one markdown file. Paste it into Gemini, Claude, ChatGPT or a local model, and it interviews you and builds a small starter loop. It takes about ten minutes, the files are yours, and you don't need an account anywhere.

How the first version landed inside a real team (the change-management half) is in The Colander.

And if you write your list, I'd like to hear what's on it. I don't mean the deliverables. I mean the questions. Drop me a line. I won't pitch you anything. I'd just like to know which questions turned out to be only yours.

A mechanical metronome on a dark wooden surface, its pendulum at rest, one warm rust light along its edge, black all around.